This was one of those books I think I’ll need to read again, just to take everything in. Genuinely so interesting, honest and thought provoking, it really brings to life the digital element of dating today, and, how tech impacts not only finding love but also current relationships. I kind of didn’t want it to end, so I might just read it again…
Ansari starts by exploring how people used to meet, “back in the day”. Typically couples from local neighbourhoods would get together (that’s exactly what my Grandma & Grandpa did, they lived on the same street). Back then people didn’t necessarily go through “emerging adulthood” stage we do now during our twenties & thirties etc… (you know when you’re at uni, working, learning who you are and generally having a good ole time).
The book then goes on to explore how we ask each other out, communicate via text and / or phone and even how we should / do choose profile pictures for dating sites or apps. Prior to technology we only had access to dates with friends, locals, friends of friends, friends of the family (etc etc) whereas now we can sign up dating apps and websites and be instantaneously connected with a range of people from literally, around the world – does this affect how we look for love?
Ansari also spends some time comparing international relations and how they differ between notably, Argentina and Japan. We’re talking “no” means “yes” VS. photos of rice cookers on dating apps here – yes, you read correctly, a rice cooker (see page 164 in the book for evidence).
The final chapter looks at how, as I commented, technology and mobile devices both aid and hinder relationships – for example FaceTime can help long distance couples, but many people have caught partners cheating having seen texts / messages / emails from another person.
For a factual book, it’s extremely interesting, funny and I guess, gripping. It’s relatable to life today and I think that’s what makes it so great, you can agree, nod, laugh and understand all of the points made throughout.
My rating? 4.5/5
(only because I wanted more, Aziz can we have Modern Romance PT2 please?)
(Also I do try to always read great books and this did say “the international bestseller” on the front so I figured it must be good ha).